Cassandra Cavenaugh (cassandracav) wrote in bigender,
Cassandra Cavenaugh


Originally posted by cassandracav at Finally.
So tonight was rather interesting. I took my wife out on a date, and when we were coming home somehow, just somehow, my bigenderism came up. It wasn't a direct confrontation or anything, but she started to express her concerns in a healthy way. I took jayt's advice (from bg.n) and explained to her how hard it was for me to talk about it, and that I wanted to know what made her uncomfortable so I could comfort her. I explained that it wasn't a sexual thing, just a mental thing -- which, for me, it is. Part of me thinks like a girl and part of me like a boy, and that's just the way I am. She asked if things would ever change between us, and of course, I told her they wouldn't. I'm excited to be with her, and to have children with her. Nothing will change that. I told her how my mother always wanted a girl, and how when my mother mentioned it the other night, I thought that she might spill my secret. It wasn't the biggest step in my life, but it really felt wonderful. I felt accepted, even if just a little, and that makes all the difference.

All in all, it was a wonderful night. ;)
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